Shepherd’s Care Forum

“I am learning how hard it is to build the bridge from the idea of taking on a cause, and actively doing it.” ~Emily

Today I had the privilege of attending the first organized Shepherd’s Care Forum, dedicated to helping church leaders and clergy members address and respond to domestic violence and sexual assault. With close to 45 various faith-based organizations and/or resource agencies coming together to discuss these issues, I am overwhelmed with information, but mostly with how many people of all faiths and backgrounds are serving in our community, working together as God’s hands to save His children. The Spirit was with us in the conference room at the Criminal Justice Lab today. Being able to connect with my community was a reminder of how often I let myself get caught up in my own little bubble of understanding.

Richard Irwin, Chairman for CDVSA and Executive Director of Anchorage City Church, opened the seminar with his vision of a brighter future for our state, “My dream is that there wouldn’t be little children hiding in the dark. That they would be able to maintain the innocence they were born with, and they would grow up to be healthy adults, raising healthy children”. Sadly, our states staggering statistics would say this dream is still far from being realized.

Presenter Brad Myrstol, Director of Alaska Justice Statistical Analysis Center for UAA, provided those statistics stating, “Domestic violence and sexual assault are the most important crime and justice issue in our state”. Richard Irwin (CDVSA) added, “This is one of the most crippling issues of our state.” Almost half of all Alaskan women (117,685) have experienced intimate partner violence, and more than one in three (91,725) have experienced sexual violence during their lifetime. (For more research and stats, visit UAA Justice Center)

With these alarming statistics you may be wondering, What can I do? Virginia McCaslin, the program manager at AWAIC said, “No one can do everything, but everyone can do something.”

Covering a wealth of topics today, it is impossible to share all the information discussed in this forum. I will try to include some important points of the day within the three goals of CDVSA, safety, prevention, and accountability.

1) Safety. Be trustworthy. Know how to respond to victims. Virginia McCaslin (AWAIC) advised to first, believe them. It takes courage and strength for a victim to come forward knowing they are in danger, and not knowing what kind of help will be available. A victim must be validated in order to feel safe taking the necessary steps towards healing.

Second, reassure they are not to blame. If we recognize sexual assault as trauma, we can know how to respond appropriately. Participants discussed some words associated with trauma: pain, fear, lasting impact, unexpected, injury, horror, helplessness, confusion, etc. There are many different types of reactions to trauma, any of which are perfectly normal. Presenter, Joshua Arvidson, Director of Alaska Child Trauma Center at Anchorage Community Mental Health Services, encouraged us to work with victims and help them reset trauma triggers by understanding the world as a safe place.

The third thing advised was to get victims in touch with resources. No two experiences are the same, nor are two journeys to healing. Getting victims in touch with resources will help them decide the best steps. However the one thing every victim has in common is the need to feel safe throughout the healing process.

2) Prevention. Be proactive. Be part of the solution. These are some statewide prevention programs:

The 4thR is for relationships. This program focuses on reducing violence in schools as.

The Green Dot Campaign teaches bystanders how to safely intervene. This program offers on site training for elementary age school children up to adults in the workplace.

The Talk Now, Talk Often campaign was developed by parents and caregivers in the state to encourage communication and healthy relationships that can be carried into adulthood.

Girls on the Run integrates running to develop self-respect, healthy lifestyles, responsibility, optimism, and other core values.

The Stand Up, Speak Up offers tools for teens to develop healthy relationships.

Alaska Men Choose Respect is a media campaign that offers information, networking, and tools for men to work together to end violence.

Coaching Boys into Men offers a program to train coaches, school administrators, parents or other community leaders in raising the next generation of boys to understand respect.

COMPASS: A Guide for Men was created by ANDVSA as part of the AK Men Choose Respect campaign. This training is for adult men mentoring young men ages 13-18 and teaching them through example how to live respectfully.

Look for training opportunities in your area. There are some great events coming up in October for Domestic Violence Action month. Know what resources are in your community, or at least know someone who knows the resources.

3) Accountability. Be responsible. CDVSA funds eight and oversees fifteen batterer intervention programs that focus on accountability for perpetrators, but we can all take accountability collectively for our community. The consequences of what is happening in our families and communities would prove that abuse is a serious problem. Expose the problem because abuse thrives on silence. In the forum we were asked to think about what each of us can do within our own sphere of influence.


There are many things we do to protect ourselves and prepare for a healthy future. We have medical insurance for injuries, college degrees to ensure a well paying job, food storage and savings plans, we even have fire escape plans for our homes and workplaces, but how many of us take the necessary steps to protect our families from sexual assault? Talk to your kids about the signs and dangers. Help them identify trustworthy adults they can talk to if they find themselves in a threatening situation. Know who to call and where to get help.

STAR Crisis Line 907-276-7273

AWAIC Crisis Line 907-272-0100

Although this was an amazing opportunity, and extremely educational, all I wanted to do when I got home was cry. Halfway through the day Richard Irwin asked me if I was overwhelmed and I cheerfully said, “No, this is great!” But by the end of the day my anxiety level was high to say the least.

I definitely experienced some of my own triggers during the day, which is a reminder that I need to stay in constant prayer that God will protect me along this journey. While talking about responding to victims I thought of all the times I reached out for help and was shut down, or found people’s reactions to be more damaging than helpful. When the OCS case worker, Travis Erickson, talked about the seven cases of infant deaths due to child abuse or neglect that crossed his desk during a one month period, all I could think was what God must be feeling when He looks upon His suffering children in this world. I am learning how hard it is to build the bridge from the idea of taking on a cause, and actively doing it.

When I knelt to pray with my husband and three beautiful children tonight, the words of gratitude held more weight. I often express gratitude for my family, my home, my testimony, and the experiences I’ve had with the Atonement, but today those blessings seem more valuable than all the riches in the world.

“There is no wrong time to start the healing process.” Keeley Olson, STAR